Thursday Thoughts: The Randoms

via The Beautiful Struggler - Me, Myself and Eye

1) I have a few questions for my male readers that are NOT directly reflective of my single status. Again, not about me being single. Y'all know how I feel about being constantly being berated about the issues I take with Black men. So I'd like to open up the floor and allow some brothers to air out the issues they have with Black women. Let's dialogue, shall we? Send thoughts and questions you would like to discuss or pose to sisters to comments@thebeautifulstruggler.com.

2) I can't feel my face. Seriously, there is a reason that I don't drink Hennessy and that reason is the feeling that I am feeling right now. Last night, Common and the Roots wrapped up their Hennessy Artistry tour here in New York and it was bananas. If you were following me on Twitter, then you saw...a lot, ha. That's how it be's sometimes! After the week I've had, I needed to let loose and who knew that something that tasted like sugar syrup could get you that twisted? I've been on vodka tonics for a while and forgot about the 'slow creep'. Common, The Roots, Karen Wheeler from Soul II Soul, Bilal and QUEEN LATIFAH performing on the same stage for free. I love New York. Seriously.

I don't party nearly as much as I should, considering how much I like kicking it and my age. I know that as humans live longer and healthier lives, the expectations and deadlines for marriage, career success and family building have changed. Without deluding myself in to believing that '30 is the new' anything, I do know that I have almost a decade left to live the single, sexy and free life. A life I suppose is fair to middlin' most times, with occasional stops at 'awesomeness' and 'despair'.

I feel kind of bad, because now whenever I mention being single or having a bad encounter with a guy, people offer encouragement and condolences. "One day your prince will come" and the like. I'm not broken or even bent, y'all! I wish people always treated me nice and I wish I met more/better quality men, but I'm good! For real. I keep myself great company, it's rather hard for dudes to compete with me for me. If that makes any sense at all, which it does, because I said it.

All that said, it's so bugged out for me to see people my own age getting married and having kids. It just doesn't seem right and I would appreciate it if y'all would just slow down and keep playing like I am for a few years. Y'all make 24, 25 seem way older than it has to be. K, thanks.

Finally, I am a few days late but I want to offer my condolences/utter devastation at the demise of Modern and Elegant Bride magazines. Modern Bride was the first bridal magazine I ever subscribed to, and in these few short months together, I learned so much about place settings, color schemes and beautiful, beautiful dresses. I thought Modern Bride was a good place to start and that I would graduate to Elegant Bride as I got closer to my wedding date. Alas, we were not given the time we needed. I will miss you both.

T.R.O.Y.
I saw all the other chicks on Jezebel last week pissing on MB and EB's graves. "Bridal magazines are lame, I'm gonna eat bacon and beer at my wedding, wah wah wah!" Don't forget, grrrrls- feminism is about choice. I choose tulle and pearls and lace and years of being enamoured by such gaiety before I actually walk down an actual aisle looking like a beautiful bedazzled princess. And I hope you have fun at your wedding hoedowns or raves or whatever counterculture fiesta you plan.

Fellas- don't short me on those questions, yo. This is your time to be heard. I'm listening.

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